Do you have a quote you live your life by or think of often?

This is an excellent question. I’m going to talk about quotes or rather mantras I’ve created for myself that I’ve really helped me on my journey, especially as of late.

1) “Everything starts with us“

We are not victims of our pasts, we are victims of ourselves. Decisions/choices we’ve made people we’ve loved married, etc that have hurt or harmed us in our lives, those are on us. Now granted the way they treated us is on them but we made the mistake of choosing them. Hence everything starts with us.

Another aspect of this quote is about love. To love other people effectively we have to love ourselves and there’s a reason why that adage holds true. If we don’t love ourselves, we will unconsciously choose people that don’t love us either.

I know because that’s what happened with me and three different women that I was involved with. I married two, and was engaged to the third. All of these relationships were toxic and all three women were narcissists. Had I loved myself and known my value I never would’ve let them in my life let alone as my significant other partner.

2) “Just keep going!!”

This has been my mantra for the past six months now as I’ve got my own place my own life and many changes. I just keep repeating to myself “ just keep going” anytime I’m unsure about anything. going on a blind date, just keep going. Unsure about my work project, just keep going. Unsure if my blog is going to be big, just keep going.

I also share this with my family, friends and even strangers. It’s so simple subtle and yet powerful. Try it yourself. You might find it really works.

3) “Any person place or thing that does not contribute to my: happiness, inner peace, or well-being, I partways with”

This one I’ve also learned firsthand from experience. I’ve had to cut ties with a lot of people in my life and items in my life that we’re not serving the purpose of my best interests, and this quote encapsulate all that.

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