My favorite automobile is a great question. It brings me back to age 18 when I graduated from High school in 1990.
My vehicle at the time was very practical but hideous and quite uncool (maroon 1982 Ford LTD station wagon, complete with burgundy pleather seats). I was essentially everyone’s ride home. Also I could stow a lot of drum equipment when needed.
So we (my parents and I) went to no less than 10 used car lots. Pushy salesmen gave the usual promises of reliability and such. We looked at small and medium coup cars from Chevrolet to Ford. There were possibilities but nothing clicked.
That is until we went to the eleventh dealer and there she was. A jet back (acrylic paint) 1984 Pontiac Firebird. The headlights went up and down. There was a rear spoiler and even louvers on the back window. The interior was pristine. The engine, a 305 V8 with a Holly 4 barrel carburetor. Sure it got 12 miles to the gallon but gas was a lot cheaper back then,
It was so much fun to drive. The engine purred and the wheels spun a tad when the car went into second gear. This was my dream machine and though throughout the years, I had to work on it a lot, cars were easier to fix back then. Besides, without the Internet or YouTube back then, I had the full Haynes mechanic manual.
I used to wax that car so much that the sun dazzled and danced on it when I drove. in fact it was almost blinding at times. My friends nicknamed the car “KIT” as it slightly resembled Knight Rider’s car (aside from not being a TransAm).
The speedometer only went up to 85 MPH, but we know it went far faster than that. A few tickets later, I learned I didn’t need to prove it as much.
Caution, these are my humble opinions from my experience and my lessons learned with women, etc. is it not facts? Is it not generalizations, rather just an opinion of this guy. lol
Now I need to share some of my approaches and philosophies of sex and love at this time. I know that those first moments of intimacy are the best and are truly beyond fun and amazing.
First, women control sex, period, end of story no if’s ands or butts, unless they allow it. We as men have to know and accept this and not try to change it because it will never change. The best thing to treat your significant other as well as possible consistently. Make his/her dreams come true and then you will get those intimate physical moments that us men live on and starve without. Treat your partner the way you would want to be treated, but better. Respect and comfort are critical. Most if not all women think they look hideous. It’s not true and you must do all you can to dispel these negative image thoughts because they will hinder you in the bedroom. Build your woman up, tell her she looks amazing and that you feel amazing just standing next to her. Be honest, of course because that should be true or why are you even with her in the first place?
Plan things out, the perfect dinner, the best time she can have. Drive her, open all doors and order for her at the restaurant after she shares what she wants. Women want a man that can be confident and in control and demonstrate that you can be without being over-bearing. They want to feel safe and know that their needs are being met in every way. You need to help her feel well enough to get naked with you and that’s no small task. I’m an empath and still struggle with the details and keep in mind even if you do everything perfectly it can and often still will not go the way you would like, but that is ok. You will be closer to her for this and she will receive a lot of intimacy even if you don’t and this will bode well for you in the future.
Women are complex amazingly challenging creatures and any number of things in their own minds can take sex out of the picture even if you do your best to help reassure them that they are safe, sexy and beautiful. If this happens, and it will (a lot), just enjoy the moment and quality time you spend together. And believe, me she will remember, and it is a good time to appreciate each other’s company. Sex should never be a goal, it should be an ideal or a place you’d like to get to and if you enjoy and appreciate each other, you will get there at least occasionally. That’s as good as it will get. The grand creator has a great sense of humor. Men are made hungry and women are made thirsty. It is difficult to create a perfect meal that both can enjoy, and sometimes its almost a happy accident. Enjoy it when it happens. In the meantime, treat women the way you know they deserve to be treated not just because they control sex and all physical love but because they will protect and help you too if you help them feel save and empowered.
What about other people, you say! “Joey Schlamoze gets sec every night and Lanie Schlamaze always makes love to her man…” Do not compare, of course you are going to see and hear the best from others because they want you to despise them and want their life. They don’t tell you about the times their partner(s) hit them or have psychological issues. They do not tell you that sex is the only love they know and have. The adage never gets lost that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. In reality, life doesn’t give most of us even remotely close to what we want, but some are great at masking it making their lives seem ideal. Its all a façade, the happiest sounding people often are far from it. They just want others to envy their life. Worry about your own happiness and keep your lawn (life) healthy always doing what is best for you and your own happiness.
Ok sex, this is not going to be explicit, at all. I am not Dr. Ruth, nor do I claim to be an expert in anything. This is just my philosophy on sex. I cannot emphasize this enough as it bears repeating, in heterosexual relationships women control sex. Any men attempting to control sex in heterosexual relationships are likely misfits in society and need to be taken out and put away someplace very safe and secure for a long long time. Now, believe it or not we spent a lot of time already taking about women and sex. It is all about how they feel in general and at the time. You want your partner to feel safe with you. You want her to feel cherished beautiful and sexy whether she is thin like a rail or curvy and cute. Appreciate all over her, this starts with her mind. Nothing is sexier than a smart strong-minded woman. Man-up and allow her to be strong, embrace it and have no fear. She is with you that should tell you all you need to know. Listen to what she says with words and her body and you will please her as much as she can stand. Then definitely stop, when she tells you to.
Do not worry about your pleasure, if she is feeling, happy, safe, appreciated, fulfilled she will turn that on you. And believe me, you will also feel happy and very appreciated afterwards. That is, it simple, it is all about the woman’s mind. You need to help her feel attractive, safe and secure, and as long as the planets align (it takes that too sometimes) she will let you have her…
Even if not, you are doing it right, keep in mind there are a million factors that need to be satisfied for sex to happen, and there’s a better than good chance some of them will prevent it from happening. This happens (a lot), do not think it is you or a lack of attraction. It could be anything from a woman feeling heavy because she didn’t like the way a dress looked on her to a model in a magazine article that makes her feel ugly. Never give up hope and do not blame yourself or you’ll go down a rough road that may never end. Take care of you when you need that, she will understand or should as you need a safe harmless release more often than not as we as men need ‘physical affection’. Women do not, remember that…
I think so I’m better in some ways and worse in others. My expectations need to be just to be happy now. I think we should all live that way and doesn’t matter if we’re better off, worse off, or the same.
There are so many sub genres of rock ‘n’ roll I’ve come to discover and find each unique and amazing. Adding so much more definition to music.
Punk rock is no exception, as there are some bands that hit the scene just before Punk Rock’s first iteration did. They’ve been labeled as “Proto-Punk”.
These band set the foundation for what would become punk rock as well as Nee Wave in the years to come. Also, with their toe stepped in classic rock, it’s a very interesting mix of styles in between these generations of music.
Some examples of Proto-Punk The Who (in my opinion the earliest), Velvet Underground, Television, and The Flamin’ Groovies to name a few.
The song I’m going to share is called “I’ll Cry Alone” by The Flamin’ Groovies. It is a sad song we can all relate to. Heartbreak never sounded so cool and beautiful though. The main guitar riff is haunting and trust me, you’re gonna hear it in your head even after this song is over. Excellent harmonies and a touch of Beatles here and there you might hear as well.
It’s a beautiful heartbreaker with a little bit of edge. Check it out and thank you as always for reading and listening…
A couple of years ago I think it was in 2022, there was a new released version of the Charlie Brown Christmas album with a ton of studio outtakes included. I believe it’s called the super deluxe version or something to that effect.
For a music lover and nerd like myself, this offers a lot of very interesting different versions of the Christmas classics we’re accustomed to. I love hearing the outtakes and are some humor and all kinds of fun stuff on a lot of the other tracks too. It’s one of my favorite Christmas albums, and it has been ever since my young years. 
You truly get an idea of how good the musicianship is on this album is, and how good and talented all the musicians are, especially Vince Guaraldi.
You can even hear the studio engineer giving instructions as they do this take and I think this version should’ve been released on the original album. I think it’s the coolest jazziest version of Greensleeves I have ever heard.
It’s very, very syncopated like jazz should be and just very unexpected and beautiful. Vince’s chops on the piano are absolutely insane. As he emotes such feeling into many of the sections.
Check it out I think it’ll really do something to you like it does to me and as is always thank you for reading and listening.
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