There are a few principles that I live by. Being an empath I always try to put myself in other people shoes since I can kinda sense and even feel where they’re coming from better than they realize.
Also, I believe in the golden rule, do onto others as you’d want them to do on you. And also even if they don’t, I try to turn the other cheek and be the bigger person which isn’t always easy.
I’m trying to learn how to not react and put space between me and my emotions. It’s a big challenge and it’s gonna take time. I’m still working on it. As people say things and do things that hurt us we tend to want to react which is a knee-jerk deal. I’d rather take pause and realize where things are coming from and not taking things so hard.
Another big one for me is that it starts and ends with us. We make bad choices and we pay for them. Those are our fault so we’re not victims take control of what’s happened in our lives and realize where things came from and find peace ultimately grace in the lessons. Don’t get me wrong. Those have done wrong to us their responsibility for their actions, but we also bare responsibility for allowing them to do it and putting them in a physician to do it.
I won’t lie I’ve been putting off seeing the doctor.
After I had a extended lapse in my visit to the dentist. My most recent one was quite the worst. I had to have four teeth pulled than an implant put in one of the most traumatic dentist visits of my life (I posted about that in here earlier this year).
I know it’s dumb and irrational but that first trip in while is always the worst.
I fear they’ll find something more wrong with me, and I’ve had a decent share of that in my life already!!!
But not everything has to be the worst like all fears I’ve had in my life. I’ll get over this one too, soon, very soon.
I will go soon, we all have to. Knowledge is power and self care, crucial to happiness and longevity.
Most people think of Gary Numan and think of his huge hit song Cars, which is a great song.
But, the album he recorded with the Tubeway Army (Replicas) has a lot to offer. As it is a highly experimental album with really something for everybody.
Aside from new wave and even some songs borderlining on Punk there’s some pretty good rock songs on Replicas as well. The album’s opening track though is still my favorite, Me I Disconnect From You.
This is truly a sonic explosion of music. Some of the earliest new wave ever recorded and it’s amazing and it’s really really intriguing.
The synth sound here is really different. I don’t think I’ve ever heard these notes together like this except in this song. Also, it has a really catchy beat and I really do enjoy the vocals on this song. Definitely feel there might be a bit of a Kraftwerk influence here as well.
So ahead of its time 1979 this is what music would become in the early 80s when new wave really took off.
I don’t know if there is a term such as Proto new wave, but that’s what this could be or postpunk. I’m making a new words up here, everybody (lol).
So please to check it out, Me I Disconnect From You off the replicas album by Gary Numan & Tubeway Army. And if you get a chance, check out the rest of the album it’s really great. Has a lot of different stuff on it. Great for listening to while you’re writing or while you’re reading.
When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?
Before I share my answers to this daily question, I want to put a qualifier out there. I’m not casting any aspersions or negativity on Millennials or Generation Z people out there. This is just from my experience and it’s a very very humble opinion not fact, and not any kind of judgment. That being said let’s get started.
I feel like I’ve always been an adult. I know it’s a sad thing to say but things we grow up and go through in our lives can make us into adults very young.
I was incessantly picked on as a young man, and that made me learn to grow independent and have to deal with things on my own.
Dealing with death for the first time at age 6 (my paternal grandfather), and many others before I even hit young adulthood, also aged me considerably.
Having some relatives that were alcoholics or addicted to drugs, also forced me to grow up very young. 
Finally, being an empath, and realizing I was one now in retrospect at age 6 after my paternal grandfather, passed away. I was picking up on emotions around me by adults and not understanding what they were, also forced me to grow up very young.
I feel like this being a member of Generation X pretty much destined us all to becoming adults, young. That’s why I find it so shocking that a few Millennials and definitely many Generation Z’s I’ve encountered in my life, can’t seem to adult even when they’re over the age of 18 or 20.
This for me is definitely one of Brian Wilson’s Magnum, opus’s of a song.
He wrote the brilliant stunning, goosebump music to this song along with the brilliant lyrics by the brilliant Tony Asher.
It’s hard to pick a favorite on pet sounds because the whole album is absolutely brilliant and it’s one of the albums. I’d have with me if I was ever stranded on a desert Island.
It’s probably my number three album of all time and this song to me, expresses the troubled, genius of Brian Wilson and how he had a hard time finding those that he could relate to and could relate to him.
“ I keep lookin’ for a place to fit in
Where I can speak my mind
And I’ve been tryin’ hard to find the
people That I won’t leave behind
They say I got brains But they ain’t
doin’ me no good I wish they could”
Note, the interesting use of the theremin towards the end of the song that he’d later use on the masterpiece Good Vibrations as well.
The Wrecking Crew is present here in full force, I love this staccato eighth notes, running up and down the bass guitar by the amazing bassist Carol Kaye. And the countermelody on the keyboards and stuff is absolutely very, very different and it makes you stop and take notice and then the lyrics are amazingly poignant and heartbreaking.
The great master percussionist and my hero Hal Blaine likely playing the wood blocks in the background, which I also love by the way.
And Brian Wilson singing the lead solo alone, echoing in the cold with only the warm harmonies of himself and his colleagues in the Beach boys, providing the background melodies.
If you had a million dollars to give away, who would you give it to?
This is again a hypothetical that’s really difficult because you kinda need to think about what you do for yourself and those nearest you before you take care of those furthest from you if you had a large excess of money like $1 million.
I would definitely help many if I did have access monies though and in that vein, I will share a fun little song by a band. I’ve liked for a long time and it always makes me laugh when I hear it.
As always, thank you for reading, seeing and listening…
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Today’s word is “birthday.”
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What’s something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail.
There’s no such thing as a guarantee to not fail. But nonetheless, I’ll try writing anyway as well as blogging. I’m a musician and will definitely be playing music again soon.
Whether I succeeded or fail, it doesn’t matter as long as I’m doing what I love and it makes me happy and fulfills my life.
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What was the hardest personal goal you’ve set for yourself?
The hardest personal goal I’ve ever set is to love myself. It’s also my greatest accomplishment in my life. Because with self love, I can do anything and become the absolute best version of myself.
A lot of my life people around me treating me like I was less than great in the I assumed that I was for a long time.
I had to get out of my head and I had to realize that what they think doesn’t matter it’s only what I think that matters about myself.
It took a lot of self-love and strength to leave my last ex-wife. It was hard and scary. A lot of change a lot of venturing out of my comfort zone, but it was worth it. That’s where growth is that’s where the answer is lie are outside of our comfort zones. If we want to be better, we must challenge ourselves.
Just remember everything starts and ends with us. That’s become one of my credos. We make bad choices and we pay for them. And that’s how we learn. If you love yourself, you will not tolerate less than great treatment by those around you.
I’ve heard the expression that if you don’t love yourself then nobody will love you. I’m living proof that that’s true. I picked (in the past) people that didn’t care about me (unconsciously) since I didn’t care about myself. once I figured out that cycle, I broke it forever.
To drive the point home, with some music, my favorite track off of Hatful Of Hollow by The Smiths: