What do I think romantic is? This is not a simple question. It’s not a straightforward answer either.

I’m gonna digress like everybody else and it say that it’s not all about candlelight dinners and walks on the beach though those can be part of it, romance is a whole lot more.

Spontaneity

Unexpected surprises and fun events that take place during time out as a big part of romantic.

An unexpected storm something goes wrong with the meal. That’s not our fault. Something crazy happens in the restaurant. A full moon a meteor shower. Any unexpected surprises will add to romance.

Surprising somebody with a last-minute getaway and taking them and having everything all planned out and laid out ahead of time is always a good idea. Especially if it’s a getaway.

Its the Small Things That Count

Little things make a huge difference. If it’s just a little chivalry by standing on a slide of traffic while you hold their hand. Ordering the meal, after finding out what your date likes.

Flowers are nice, but they’re very unoriginal in this day and age. I find writing a poem or sharing that just before we leave is interesting and different. I am a writer so I guess that kind of helps.

Getting the doors, pulling out the chair and pushing it in, these finer points are important and that you care and that you want your date to feel special.

Lots of surprises anything you can do to surprise your date is a great idea and I think very romantic.

Location Location Location

Places of natural beauty. Lovely, quiet sidewalk cafés with sweeping people watching views. Dark candle-lit restaurants. These are the ocean sunsets sun on the sea are all nice and add to the ambience.

Pay Attention (read that again!!)

Most important, pay attention, take someone to their favorite restaurant, for their favorite dessert, their favorite place to go and visit, or their favorite destination.

People want to know that you’re paying attention to them, but you know what they like that you listen to what they say demonstrating that on a date you plan out to me is very romantic.

Everything will work out for the best just take it one step at a time and be present the entire time and romance will flood through.

As always, thank you for reading.

-aaa

I do so by being thankful of everything I receive and get in life. So many have done nice things for me and I always try to share my gratitude with them each. 

Either if it comes to me randomly or from a friend or from a family member or a lover, I always appreciate it.

I’m working on being more being grateful, it’s tough sometimes. Writing on this blog here I have to work on my gratitude. I’ll take lack of response for one thing I write more seriously than the great response I get for almost everything else. I write and I need to stop doing that.

But I continue to try and improve on this and be happier in and of myself. always start up my day simply by being grateful for being alive and waking up and for having all that I have in my life right now and all that I’ve earned in my life right now.

As always, thank you for reading. 😊

-aaa

Motivators, Mentors, and Megalomaniacs

All teachers that I have had from elementary school through college, and even my masters degree, have fallen under one of the three categories: motivators, mentors, or megalomaniacs.

Motivators

Great teachers will motivate you and what they are teaching you. Their enthusiasm and knowledge of their subject matter is infectious. They invite you into their world to be part of what they know and find wonderful and beautiful. The symbiotic relationship in these classrooms is fantastic and rare, unfortunately in my education career.

Mentors

Great teachers, instructors, professors, mentor their students, and lead by example and teach by example. They make you feel like you’re equals and that you’re on this journey together. Even to the point they you talk to them on a first name basis. Leaving by example and bringing you to new places as all what a mentor is all about and the best teachers are mentors.

Megalomaniacs

My least favorite, and unfortunately majority of educators, especially in the college level or megalomaniacs. Being educated and an accredited instructor can lead to a really big ego. Some of us feel like why are we wasting their time when they know more than us? or they talk down to us like we’re stupid just because they know more than we do about the subject matter. The professors, many of professors, I’ve had no less about human nature than anybody. And if you don’t care about your audience, they’re not gonna care about what you have to say and I’ll just ignore you and give you very poor reviews at the end of the semester.

I think I’m very effective teacher or professor mentors, their students relates to them and leads/teaches by example.

As always, thank you for reading.

-AAA